Wedding planning isn’t just an important event for the bride and groom, but for their moms as well. In fact, moms are probably more excited than the couple as they are likely more dreaming of their daughter or son’s wedding day longer that they have. However, with things becoming more modern these days, children are getting more independent, wanting to lead the planning of everything in their life, especially their own wedding. As a result, the role of moms falls into a more of a supportive role.
If you’re one of those moms, don’t worry as there are a lot of ways to help your children plan for their wedding without taking too much control of the process. Here’s how to do just that:
- Be the contact with the vendors. As the mother, you probably have attended a lot of weddings in the past. That means you’re aware about the ins and outs of the planning process and probably know where to find the right wedding team to ensure that your daughter or son’s wedding goes off without a hitch. Contact all the wedding vendors you know (bakers, photographers, videographers, and florists) as well as friends who can point you to the best wedding teams in town.
- Assist with the guest list. With all the tasks that come along with planning a wedding, creating the guest list is probably one of the hardest and most time-consuming. Lift some load off your son or daughter’s shoulder by helping in creating the right guest list. Since you’re the mother, you’re the one who’s “in the know.” You know how many kids does aunt Maya have now; if Mr. and Mrs. Adams are already divorced; if cousin Sheila already got married; or if uncle Tom is still alive. You also know how to spell their names with correct titles or terms of respect.
- Help with the invitations. In addition to creating the guest list, volunteer to help the couple choose their wedding invitation, put address on it for RSVP, and mail them. Also offer help for keeping track of the responses – sending responses when guests send back their response cards and/or following up with those who have not yet responded.
- Provide dress shopping support. If you’re the mother of the bride, be there when she’s choosing her wedding dress. The last thing that brides-to-be want to do is to go dress shopping alone! Even though your daughter knows what she wants for a dress, she’ll still need your advice when it comes to choosing the right one. In addition to the dress, you would also want to help her get the perfect headband, veil, tiara, and jewelry that match her dress.
- Help find the right venue. It takes a lot of research and phone calls to find that perfect venue for the wedding. And with all the many things that the bride and groom must worry about, they wouldn’t want to spend most of their wedding planning days in searching for the right wedding place. To lighten their load, volunteer to help them with contacting venues and finding all the necessary details they need to make the selection process much easier.
- Participate in planning the party. If you’re creative enough, participate in choosing the wedding decorations, wedding theme, party essentials, including flowers, event lighting, table cloths, burlap table runner, menu plans, and party favors, as well as other things to make the venue more amazing and the wedding unforgettable. If you run out of ideas, you can visit craftyweddingdecor.com website for design tips and other ideas.