What Busy Single Moms Buy Their Kids for Christmas

If you are a single mom, you want the best for your kids for Christmas. But sometimes you have to balance fun with function when choosing the ideal gift. That allows you to get your kids something nice while also having the present serve a useful purpose. Luckily, there are a number of high-quality gift options that can also meet other needs within your household. To help you take advantage of the ability for a gift to pull double-duty, consider these options that are sure to impress.

What Busy Single Moms Buy Their Kids for Christmas

Gaming and Computer Chairs

One trick with kids is that they can grow so fast. And while you may not think about it often, having a quality chair when using a home computer is important. A poorly designed chair can make extended computer sessions (whether homework or entertainment related) seriously uncomfortable. Poor ergonomics can also lead to a number of injuries and other physical issues.

If you want to make sure your child can complete their tasks, then consider giving top gaming chairs as a gift. Since these are made with gaming in mind, it is fairly common for them to be created based on ideas of extended use. And just because they say they are for gaming, that doesn’t mean they won’t work well for any computer-related task.

Clothes and School Supplies

While giving clothes and school supplies as gifts don’t initially sound like fun, it can be when you take your child’s unique style into consideration. Consider adding a few key pieces that represent who they are and what they are interested in. You may want to consider brands or styles that would normally be off limits due to their prices, especially if holiday sales make the items more affordable. That way you can give them something they want, and don’t normally get, that also serves an important function in their daily lives.

Active Gifts

We all know that physical fitness is important to overall health, but getting a kid to participate in a traditional exercise program might not be easy. However, you can encourage them to be more active by making exercise fun. Bicycles, skateboards, rollerblades, and sports equipment can all be used for fun while providing giving your child a reason to get some exercise. That allows you to kill two birds with one stone.

Alternatively, if there is a certain skill they would like to learn, like dance or martial arts, consider signing them up for classes as a gift. This demonstrates that you pay attention to what interests them, but still allows you to make sure they are getting enough exercise to stay healthy. Since classes are often held at business locations, you may not even have to stay in the building while they take their class. This can give you a chance for a little alone time, which may make the gift even more valuable than you originally anticipated.

Gift Cards

Even if gift cards practically function like cash, they do limit where your child can spend the money. If you aren’t comfortable selecting new clothes or shoes as gifts without them present, then consider giving a gift card that lets them pick a few new items for their wardrobe. That way they can be actively involved in the selection process, but you still ensure they get a functional gift.

Dating Mistakes Single Mom’s Make

Getting divorced is a heartbreaking experience for you and your kids. No doubt you will eventually want to reenter the realm of relationships, but there are some things you should know before you take that leap. While there are a number of self-proclaimed experts out there you should probably spend some time researching their validity.

One site that will help you, http://dateandsimple.com/the-tao-of-badass-review/, can provide reviews and advice for reentering the dating world. In fact, the review they write about there, is one man’s directives on how to get women. Sometimes it helps to know what garbage men are putting into their heads before you let them into yours.

Dating Mistakes Single Mom’s Make

Here are some common mistakes single mom’s make:

Waiting too Long- Everybody’s divorce ends on a different note. Based on what you may or may not have endured, the time frame in which you choose to wait to get back out there will vary. However, if you wait too long you will be in danger of having become too focused on your own ways of doing things. That makes it hard to welcome someone else into your sphere. You don’t want to become the old lady who’s too set in her ways to get a man.

Being Serious too Soon– We know that you have likely come out of a lengthy marriage. Even six years is a length of well-invested time and effort (2190 days, but who’s counting). And, the tendency would be to desire another monogamous relationship. There’s nothing wrong with that aspiration, but requiring instant commitment won’t be good for you or the man you’re seeing. Try dating several different men (preferably wholly different than your ex-husband) to see which one meets the scope and span of your relational desires. Here are some more dating tips.

Dating too Quickly- This is the exact opposite of the first issue. And, unfortunately, a number of women are guiltier of this issue than they are of the first. We are relational creatures and we want to be in loving mutual companionship. That’s a pretty tried and true statement. But, if we don’t allow ourselves to heal (because all divorces cause damage) and return to understanding ourselves, this new relationship won’t be a good one either. Recommendations abound, but allowing yourself at least a year, to move from the “we” mindset into one that allows who you are to immerge again, is highly advisable.

Having Sex- We don’t advise sex outside of marriage because there are too many additional complications (read more about the value of celibacy). In truth, we understand the desire to want that intimacy. However, women generally attach emotional bonds to those they are sexually active with. That bond could be the reason they stay in relationships that are not good for them or their children. It’s a better choice to avoid sex until remarriage. Then there are no ties that bind you to someone that could be just as problematic as your first husband.

The Kids- As if being a single woman wasn’t hard enough, we have children to add to the mix. The choices we make with the men in our lives impact them greatly. Choosing when to introduce a new boyfriend to the kids is a big deal and should never be taken lightly or jumped into too quickly. Your relationship with the new man needs to have already been through the commitment and future vision stages of discussion and agreement before you let him meet the kids.

For more advice on dating after divorce click this.

Single moms rule

Today it isn’t strange or out of the ordinary anymore for moms to raise kids as single parents. It isn’t frowned upon.  Growing up with a single mom gave me the opportunity to experience so many advantages and learn so much about life and being independent. There were the times that I had to deal with the frustration of explaining to friends where my dad was but they were few and far between. My mom worked hard to provide us with the best possible life and really took the time to out of her busy schedule to teach us about money, responsibility and chores. We all had errands to do which luckily enabled me to be quite efficient around the house and in the kitchen. Click here for statistics of single parent homes.

Vegan Pasta

When I was 21 I decided to go vegan. I watched a couple of online videos and felt that it was the humane thing to do. Mom didn’t really agree with my decision but was supportive as usual. I remember inviting her for dinner the one night and made a delicious tofu and vegan pasta. I don’t think she was really fond of the tofu but she still smiled and ate every last bit. I don’t think I would have turned out to be the strong individual that I am today if I weren’t raised by my single mom. For interest sake I did decide to look up some benefits of being raised by a single parent. Read someone else’s opinion here. It is quite interesting and almost shocking to see how many children are raised by single parents nowadays. Mom’s working hard and independently raising their children isn’t a thing of shame anymore but rather a respected thing and people now look up to single moms. That is of course how it should be.

The greatest benefit of being raised by a single parent is most definitely the fact that there was no time or money to grow up spoilt. Don’t get me wrong, love was ever present and my mom, my sister and I lived a fantastic and fun filled life together. I just never had the time to take my life and everything in it for granted. I had a lot of friends that grew up spoilt and got everything they wanted from their parents because obviously money wasn’t a problem. They never really had the benefit and gratitude that comes with working for your own rewards and appreciating it so much more.

In conclusion being raised by a single mom was the best influence in my life and yes, it would have been pretty cool to have a dad around to beat up the boys that broke my heart but did I want or need for anything without a dad? No, I didn’t, I loved every minute and I still do. The only difference is now I take care of mom and I am happy to do it, as a single mom she deserves the best I can offer.